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Post by mullauna on Jan 20, 2018 8:04:52 GMT
I asked this elsewhere but should you accept it when now adult former school bullies say they are sorry?
the hurt and pain they caused me doesn't just go away. Maybe they're sorry, maybe they regret it now, but it doesn't change what they did. I could easily have been another Phoebe Prince, another Amy "Dolly" Everett, and i don't think the now-adult ex-bullies understand that.
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Post by Krall on Jan 20, 2018 14:00:06 GMT
I think it's less a question of "should" and more a question of "can" - do you feel able to forgive them? If not, that's not something that will reflect badly on you, it just means you're acknowledging your feelings and acting in the way that is best for you. You can recognise that they're a better person now, but if you still associate them with the harm they did to you there's nothing wrong with staying isolated from them, even if you do forgive them.
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Post by mullauna on Jan 20, 2018 14:11:59 GMT
I was bullied horribly for developing breasts because of my weight. Endless taunts that i need a bra. remarks that i should go to the school dance ball in a giant poofy dress. I also have a sister who sent me a photo of a "mother" and "daughter" from a bra catalog in an email, with the caption "you and Mum". I've attached the image she sent:
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Post by Krall on Jan 20, 2018 23:28:01 GMT
I was bullied horribly for developing breasts because of my weight. Endless taunts that i need a bra. remarks that i should go to the school dance ball in a giant poofy dress. I also have a sister who sent me a photo of a "mother" and "daughter" from a bra catalog in an email, with the caption "you and Mum". I've attached the image she sent: You must've been really young for "You need a bra" to be a valid insult. I'm sorry you went through that.
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Post by steve59 on Jan 21, 2018 11:41:12 GMT
I was bullied horribly for developing breasts because of my weight. Endless taunts that i need a bra. remarks that i should go to the school dance ball in a giant poofy dress. I also have a sister who sent me a photo of a "mother" and "daughter" from a bra catalog in an email, with the caption "you and Mum". I've attached the image she sent: You must've been really young for "You need a bra" to be a valid insult. I'm sorry you went through that. Ah, mullauna has already mentioned on another site he's male, which makes for a different situation.
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Post by Krall on Jan 21, 2018 18:34:01 GMT
Ah, mullauna has already mentioned on another site he's male, which makes for a different situation. Whoops, my bad. I didn't even look at the gender icon on their mini-profile. D:
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Post by mullauna on Jan 21, 2018 19:12:29 GMT
you can understand why being sent a picture from a bra catalog and being told you're the young girl in it who's wearing nothing but a bra would upset me given i'm a guy.
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Post by Krall on Jan 21, 2018 20:28:33 GMT
you can understand why being sent a picture from a bra catalog and being told you're the young girl in it who's wearing nothing but a bra would upset me given i'm a guy. Yeah, sorry about that.
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Post by punkrockbowler805 on Mar 22, 2018 21:23:57 GMT
It depends. If they were forced to apologize by someone else because you complained, take that with a shaker of salt. If they seem for real, maybe, but don't hang out with them too much to avoid them backsliding and screwing you over again.
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